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Forgiving the Unforgivable By Beverly Flanigan,

  • Title: Forgiving the Unforgivable
  • Author: Beverly Flanigan
  • ISBN: 9780020322306
  • Page: 426
  • Format: Paperback
  • A clearheaded study of what life can do to us and possible ways to begin again Carl A Whitaker, M.D author of Midnight Musings of a Family Therapist and coauthor of The Family Crucible Women and men who have been deeply hurt by someone they love often experience a pain that spirals out to undermine their work, relationships, self esteem, and even their sense of realiA clearheaded study of what life can do to us and possible ways to begin again Carl A Whitaker, M.D author of Midnight Musings of a Family Therapist and coauthor of The Family Crucible Women and men who have been deeply hurt by someone they love often experience a pain that spirals out to undermine their work, relationships, self esteem, and even their sense of reality In Forgiving the Unforgivable, author Beverly Flanigan, a leading authority on forgiveness, defines such unforgivable injuries, explains their poisonous effects, and then guides readers out of the paralyzing anger and resentment As a Fellow of the Kellogg Foundation, Flanigan conducted a pioneering study of forgiveness, and from that study, from her clinical practice, and from her many years of teaching, researching, and conducting professional workshops and seminars, she devised a unique six stage program, presented here Filled with inspiring real life examples, Forgiving the Unforgivable is both a practical and a comforting guide to recovery and healing.
    Forgiving the Unforgivable A clearheaded study of what life can do to us and possible ways to begin again Carl A Whitaker M D author of Midnight Musings of a Family Therapist and coauthor of The Family Crucible Women and men w

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    1. Most books on forgiveness take a theological perspective and spend a great deal time on what forgiveness is and why you should practice it than on how you do it, i.e You should forgive because Christ commands it Unfortunately, however true that may be, it s not particularly useful Forgiving the Unforgivable focuses on the how of forgiveness from a sociological, rather than a theological, perspective The author has studied scores of people who have actually managed to forgive successfully, and t [...]

    2. This book is brilliantly written It moves intelligently through the actual forgiveness process, as opposed to the denial forgiveness process Her process leads the reader to where forgiveness is a rational choice rather than an emotional obligation The author also does a great job at defining what unforgivable means and why it is unforgivable It has already clarified my understanding of some events in my life in a valuable way.The second part of the book includes exercises to help the reader thro [...]

    3. I am usually skeptical about the psychological reasonings offered in self help books This one was a welcomed exception The author has done her homework and offers very wise, practical advice that even seems to make room for the reader s religious worldview on the topic of forgiveness It was even handed and level headed I found that it challenged me to recognize that there is some damage that will never be undone and it offered tools to get past it.My only complaint about the book is that there s [...]

    4. This is without question, the best book I have read on the subject of forgiveness I have read many good books on forgiveness However the depth and brilliance of this book, in addition to the scope of betrayals that one is capable of doing to another, or of the devastation that one may endure and come out not only okay, but whole, that the author addresses in this book, is beyond what I expectedThis book is a balm I am reading it again for the second time, and it is even better than the first rea [...]

    5. This book is beyond excellent It is a tool for those who want to try and forgive but just can t seem to get there There is no religious BS No platitudes about turning the other cheek or forgiving for one s own sake Ms Flanigan has taken her years of experience working with wounded people and combined it with incredible insight, wisdom and practicality The book brings logical process and analysis to forgiveness It guides the reader through the steps required to get to a place where forgiveness is [...]

    6. There is a lot in here that is quite good and helpful But there were some situations and things said that irked me a bit You ll have to read it to perhaps see what I mean.

    7. I struggled with the book from the title onward The first few chapters show many people who have had atrocities done to them, but then forgive the perpetrators This is fine and inspiring, but then continuing to repeat that this is forgiving the unforgivable doesn t rectify the logic problem in that wording If something is unforgivable, then by definition it can t be forgiven.Now, if the author instead used wording like forgiving the scenarios that society as a whole usually perceives as unforgiv [...]

    8. now this might sound lame, but i don t care this is by far the best self help book i ve ever used it has helped me a whole bunch, and it continues to do so it has helped several of my friends i was lucky enough to stumble upon it i m passing my luck on to those of you who find yourselves in a conundrum And let s be frank who here hasn t found themselves in a conundrum includes the real reason to attempt to forgive it sure ain t about THEM how to cultivate an attitude of humility and kindness wit [...]

    9. This was so helpful I m one to bury anger and resentment deep down, thinking that I m over an issue, only for it to come to the surface with a memory or other trigger I realized that I had not forgiven or moved on, and I really didn t know HOW to forgive We are told that we should forgive, but we are never given the steps to get there This book gives you the steps and walks you through the healing process leading to forgiveness The transactional model of forgiveness in the introduction showed th [...]

    10. This book is written by a social worker It is about the first extensive study on forgiveness, done in the 1980s She visited with people who had been abused by their parents, had spouses who left them for others while they were struggling with cancer, just all sorts of horrible things It reminded me how charmed my life is It also explained the process of forgiveness and relationship patterns that emerge that cause one party to harm another I would highly recommend it.

    11. Actually, I couldn t even finish it This book is for someone overcoming a divorce but it isn t insightful regarding anything else I often find psychological perspectives on topics such as these that overlook religion end up lacking Plus, there are too many rules that psychology pushes onto people that I don t agree with.

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